A Guide to Your Toddler’s Behaviour.

Everyone who is a parent – or even witnessed parenting in a supermarket – understands that children have emotions that are hard to control. Children tend to show natural aggression during the “terrible twos” when they want to have control over their surroundings and engage in aggressive outbursts when they can’t. These little outbursts are what are lovingly called tantrums and there is not one person out there who enjoys them!

Tiredness and frustration are some of the triggers for this aggression and while it sounds like a strong word to use for a toddler, it is correct as they have little control over their reactions to situations. There’s no rationale just yet and rightly so; they’re still babies and still learning to explore the 4world. Children often do this by putting everything and anything into their mouths. Biters often tend to be the youngest child in a family because they feel small and powerless compared to older siblings who seem stronger, can communicate better and are more able to get what they want. It’s a basic parenting fact that toddlers behave the best when they are given limits that they can understand. For example, a 2/3 year old may understand that drawing on paper and colouring books is a good 5thing, but that if they take that pen to the nearest wall they’re likely to witness a vein popping out of their parents’ head while they try not to yell. Rules provide stability and predictability and when if you have ever done a nanny courses, you will know that you are often told to establish rules very early on.

Nurseries and schools should have a policy for dealing with inconsiderate behaviour. Most problems tend to occur during outside play when children get over-excited. If after two warnings, a child continues to bite/kick/hit, having them sit for two minutes can really help them to calm down. Seeing all the other children playing happily and not being able to join in is usually enough. We go through life knowing our actions have consequences and the younger a child learns this, the easier enforcing those consequences can be. Sometimes, and it’s to be expected really, toddlers do not behave as we expect. Of course they don’t! They are small versions of us who have no understanding of danger and only understand what they want and that they must get it. By allowing the tantrum to burn itself down into a calm, you can then talk to your child in a calm voice and use that time to gently explain the dangers of sticking fingers into plug holes. Of course, this won’t always work, but the only way to communicate to a toddler is with rationality and calm. Yes they should react angrily, you’ve just taken from them what they want, if it was the other way around you’d be angry too! But that doesn’t mean a tantrum is acceptable and learning that at a young age will always stand them in good stead.

 

 

 


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For Teachers: A Guide To Knowing Your New School!

A move to a new school doesn’t just mean new people it means new policies to learn and new practices as well and if you have landed a great job in the same school you did your teaching practice in, you will already know the staff and ethos which will massively work in your favour. First impressions don’t just last they shape how people react to you and you want to make sure that while you give a great impression, it’s you and not who you think others want you to be. Plan your route to your new job and make sure you are on time. Put yourself out there in the staff room and get to know more than just your department because if you have spent months trawling for maths teaching jobs then you will need to get to know everyone to get yourself ingratiated in the school dynamic. Join in any social activities and get to know your colleagues. Obviously don’t go mad on a night out and get hammered on the first ever social, but do go and be social. Enjoy yourself and try not to be shy.

Every school has its own policies so spend time learning them all on the surface. This can be daunting but getting to know these policies earlier means that if there any hidden ones you can root those out quickly and learn them too. The move from trainee teacher to professional means that the routines and ideals you had as a student teacher may no longer work, especially if you are looking to climb the ladder in the school and work your way up. Looking for a new job is always a mountain to climb and when you finally find science teaching jobs, if that’s what you are looking for, your first job is your first impression. The sooner you get to know your new colleagues and learn the lay of the land for your new school the more efficient you will be. Working in a school can feel like being one of the classroom again and the ‘getting to know you’ portion is always nerve-wracking.

You will be expected to stand on your own two feet and although your colleagues will be there to give you advice and a helping hand with certain procedures, they won’t be babying you along.

You will have a sharp lesson to learn of your own if you get caught short not having read the policies correctly. Take lead from your department head and get to know how everyone in your area of subject works. Getting to know what your colleagues do in terms of communications will really help you go a long way with settling in and being quickly accepted as a new part of the team.

Ultimately, your new school is there to support you but the faster you find your feet the better off you will be!


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Choosing Your Career: Teaching

When you’ve settled on the ideal career for you, and that ideal career is teaching, a lot of people will assume that you only work school hours and get weeks off every year which in the abstract I suppose is true. Yes, your teaching hours are 9-3pm but you start work earlier and finish later as you are planning lessons, setting up activities and marking work. During the school holidays you will be planning, organising paperwork and marking essays and homework as it comes in and around all this you have to keep planning ahead for lessons and marking. It is not easy. However, there is a flipside.

Teaching isn’t just a job it’s a vocation. To become a teacher is to choose to give up hours of your time to be able to impart wisdom on those younger and more innocent than yourself. It is a huge commitment and contrary to popular belief it isn’t all holidays and time off. Taking the decision to become a teacher isn’t an easy one and it does take a lot of work. Not just in university but before that as you need to have certain grade in GCSEs and A Levels to even get the points to get into university. Teaching isn’t as easy as the television makes it out to be and it does have a fairly bad reputation because of government red tape. It’s exhausting and primary teaching jobs like secondary English teaching jobs aren’t all about finishing the day at 3pm.

Teaching is rewarding in ways other jobs can’t be. You stand every day in front of children and you are shaping them in ways you cannot even comprehend. Whether you’re there in a pastoral capacity or not your words and the way you project yourself as a teacher will stay with children no matter what you do.

Finding teaching jobs after you’ve qualified isn’t always easy but teaching is a recession-proof position. Children and adults will always require teachers to help them learn and grow and it’s because of this that teaching has become such a coveted position. University courses are always jam packed with applications and usually there is a waiting list. Becoming a teacher is just so much more than a degree. It’s a want to develop a young mind. It’s a want to see the light on a person’s face as they finally understand what you’re trying to get across. It’s choosing to see children as the people they are and recognising they are all individual and harnessing that individuality to channel it into what they are passionate about. It’s standing on graduation day knowing you had a big part in getting them there and feeling that satisfaction. The key here is ensuring you want to shape the young minds you will be a part of. Teaching is not for everyone but it takes a special kind of someone to do it.


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